Rough Around The Edges

Have you noticed that some groups of people are not interacting well with each other. Our differences are not only becoming more pronounced, there seems to be an increase in the number of  people who aren’t tolerating those differences with equanimity.

You can almost choose any subject and quickly find or even just think of someone whose beliefs about that subject are totally opposite yours. It’s as if there are no gray areas. All is black or white. If you doubt this, consider the recent election. Unfortunately, we can probably all think of someone who would be challenged to hear an opposing opinion and remain calm, perhaps someone close to us. And there seems to be a growing number of hot topics these days. We are passionate about our beliefs, and that is good, but are we losing the ability to accept another’s viewpoint without getting all red in the face? Some of us have just become a little “rough around the edges.”

The phrase “rough around the edges” has been defined as imperfect, unpolished, or lacking manners.[1] Seems like a perfect fit for our world today.

There’s a song, “Rough Around The Edges” that reflects this definition in its lyrics: “Pulled in to meet you, windows down. Duct tape mirrors, exhaust pouring out. Always late, never unwound. When will I learn to shut my mouth? Guess I’m rough, rough around the edges. Honey, I’m rough, rough around the edges. If I let you down, baby, don’t take it to heart. When my mind becomes a question mark. When I want closure, then I get confused. Don’t believe in much, but I believe in you. I’m just rough, rough around the edges. Honey, I’m rough, rough around the edges.”[2]

Do we resemble the song writer – always unwound, our minds a question mark, wanting closure but only getting confused? Like the singer, we need someone who understands, someone to believe in.

Our world isn’t perfect, far from it. The harder we try, the more we turn to the duct tape just like the fellow in the song. The more we try to tie up loose ends and find closure, the more confused we seem to get. Instead of fixing the problem, it seems to get worse. Are we growing farther apart? Perhaps we all are a little rough around the edges.

Maybe that isn’t all that bad. We are imperfect after all and so is this world. When we can see our own rough edges, we will want to work on ourselves, instead of others, And when we remember that this world is not our permanent home, we can find hope for change. Perhaps instead of seeing ourselves and others as “rough around the edges” we can see that we are truly a “diamond in the rough.” The more we work on coming together, loving each other, not in spite of our differences,  but because of them, we shine. And if we focus on what we have in common, a living God who died to free us from our imperfections and bring us home, we’ll find that we are more like that diamond in the rough than we knew.

Turn to the only One who can smooth out that irritating roughness. Call out to the One who is preparing a wonderful new home for you. He’s hoping you will.

“Now unto Him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of His glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion  and power, both now and ever.” Jude 1:24-25 KJV


[1] https://idioms.thefreedictionary.com/rough+edges

[2] https://genius.com/Courtney-marie-andrews-rough-around-the-edges-lyrics

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